How often do you spend one-on-one time with your kids? I guess that answer probably depends on how many kids you have… I get alone time with Isabelle every week when K goes to her grandparents, but rarely get alone time with K. Last night I took K out for a night hike (that ended up being a night rain hike!)
I rarely get alone time with K.
She was so well-behaved the entire time, we talked about her favorite things, she did a ton of pretend play, and she listened when I told her it was time to go home or she had to hold my hand crossing the street. I honestly never wanted to leave. And then I thought to myself, would she be this good all the time if we were always alone? Or was it just a lucky night?
Would she be this good all the time if we were always alone?
And then of course I felt SO GUILTY that I can never give her my 100%. Or Isabelle. Or Jason. No one gets my 100% anymore (including me) because there are 4 people in our family. And it’s hard to juggle attention. Isabelle sometimes has to cry longer than I would like because maybe I’m dressing Katie. Katie doesn’t get my full attention when she’s acting out so we have to resort to time outs instead of me sitting down and talking with her for more than a minute.
No one gets my 100% anymore (including me)
Poor Jason is always last after the kids’ needs and usually by the time the kids go to bed, we’re so drained even our conversations are half-assed. I know that’s just how things are right now while the kids are young, but it’s tough. I really do want to start doing something alone with K once a week or so now. I think it would be good for us, even if it’s just a walk outside. How do you divide time between your family members?
